Aug. 13, 2025

Part Two of Episode 39: The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships - Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll: Entitled Energy is Expensive

Part Two of Episode 39: The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships - Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll: Entitled Energy is Expensive

🎙️ Episode 40: Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll: Entitled Energy is Expensive

Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

Host: Tina White

Series: Mental Health Matters

📝 Episode Summary:

Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll – Entitled Energy is Expensive picks up where Episode 39 left off. This time, Tina dives deep into one personal story, when casual dating collided with financial entitlement, insecurity, and the audacity to try and cash in on someone else’s hustle.

It’s not just about a man asking for a cut of a commission check he didn’t earn, it’s about what that moment revealed: unspoken resentments, shifting dynamics, and how entitlement can quietly drain your energy if you don’t check it early.

This episode is a wake-up call about protecting your peace, your pockets, and your mental bandwidth from people who think being in your proximity gives them ownership over your effort.

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. This is Part Two of a conversation we started in Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll – Entitled Energy is Expensive picks up where Episode 39 left off. This time, Tina dives deep into one personal story — when casual dating collided with financial entitlement, insecurity, and the audacity to try and cash in on someone else’s hustle.

It’s not just about a man asking for a cut of a commission check he didn’t earn — it’s about what that moment revealed: unspoken resentments, shifting dynamics, and how entitlement can quietly drain your energy if you don’t check it early.

This episode is a wake-up call about protecting your peace, your pockets, and your mental bandwidth from people who think being in your proximity gives them ownership over your effort.

Episode Introduction

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. This is Part Two of a conversation we started in Episode 39: The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships That Should Have Been a One-Night Stand.

In this episode, we’re talking about one specific situation from my own life — a moment when casual dating got tangled up with financial entitlement. Let me paint the picture: You’re focused, you’re working, you’re building. Someone you’re dating sees your success and instead of celebrating, they start calculating. And suddenly, you’re not just managing the relationship — you’re managing their insecurity and sense of ownership over your hustle.

So today, I want to walk you through what happened, why entitlement energy is so expensive, and how to spot it before it costs you more than money. And I’ve got five key questions for you to ask yourself if you suspect someone is trying to live off your efforts without ever clocking in."

Five Questions from the Episode

  1. Does this person celebrate my wins or do they compete with them?
  2. Have they ever implied they deserve a piece of my success without contributing to it?
  3. Do I feel I have to downplay my accomplishments to keep them comfortable?
  4. Are they adding value to my life or just attaching themselves to the benefits?
  5. If this relationship ended today, would I feel relieved, or would I feel like I lost a true partner?

in Relationships That Should Have Been a One-Night Stand.

In this episode, we’re talking about one specific situation from my own life, a moment when casual dating got tangled up with financial entitlement. Let me paint the picture: You’re focused, you’re working, you’re building. Someone you’re dating sees your success and instead of celebrating, they start calculating. And suddenly, you’re not just managing the relationship, you’re managing their insecurity and sense of ownership over your hustle.

So today, I want to walk you through what happened, why entitlement energy is so expensive, and how to spot it before it costs you more than money. And I’ve got five key questions for you to ask yourself if you suspect someone is trying to live off your efforts without ever clocking in."

Five Questions from the Episode

1: Does this person celebrate my wins or do they compete with them?

2: Have they ever implied they deserve a piece of my success without contributing to it?

3: Do I feel I have to downplay my accomplishments to keep them comfortable?

4: Are they adding value to my life or just attaching themselves to the benefits?

5: If this relationship ended today, would I feel relieved, or would I feel like I lost a true partner?

💬 "Dating is not a merger. There’s no profit-sharing plan. And you don’t get a cut of my commission just because you were present when I earned it."

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